I recently read an article in the April 2015 issue of Redbook (THANK YOU LIBRARY CARD!) by Stephanie Wood. In the article she reported a statement by Alice Domar, PhD., saying that for most people seventy percent of your life is satisfying and fifteen percent goes to being happy and another fifteen percent goes to being unhappy.
I could not believe what I read.
I felt immediately disappointed and sad with this percentage. I also felt a bit of relief because this number was close to what I felt. And I didn’t like seeing it on paper.
The article goes on to mention that for women everything basically needs to be perfect at home, at work, with family, health and money (Domar, PhD., 2015) in order for them to be happy. Men’s happiness was not mentioned. Probably because it takes less to make a man happy. Us women can be tricky.
I don’t like fifteen percent against seventy percent. It’s not like I will get to come back and do this life over again, so why can’t the seventy percent be happy and fifteen be satisfied? Because…why not?! Well… Matthew McConaughey would say why not!! And did so at recent graduation speech at The University of Houston. McConaughey declared that joy is what one should strive for, and not happiness, because trying to achieve happiness will result in a let-down. Dare I say…unbelievable?!?! (Which according to McConaughey is the “stupidest word in the dictionary.”)
Good thing I will advise you all to think for yourselves, and what works best for you to find happiness in what matters to you.
For those wanting the Time Magazine take – McConaughey – read the whole speech.
For those wanting Entertainment Tonight’s highlights (with actual video clips of the speech).